Emotional Satisfaction – Love
Love is one of the most powerful human emotions and it has a very important role in human society and in our lives. When we are in love, we want to share the rewards with the person we love, and that’s why love is sometimes referred as the spice of life. Even if love is not a spice, it can still be a good ingredient.
Love encompasses a wide range of positive and negative emotional and psychological states, from the purest form of human bonding, to the most sublime human emotion, lust. In between these two states lies a plethora of feelings ranging from mild to intense feelings. When you experience love or lust for someone, you will experience something more than just mere physical attraction. You will have an emotional connection with the person that makes you feel good. You may have an inner feeling of longing for that person and you may feel jealous when you see another couple together. All of these different feelings stem from a single core desire to be loved and to be lovable.
Lust just happens; it is not an enduring emotion. It is something that happens without any conscious effort on your part. It is also not something that can easily be controlled. When we are in a relationship with someone, a certain amount of lust or strong feelings for that person is natural and healthy. But when the initial attraction wears off, there are conflicting feelings that arise – jealousy and resentment.
These conflicting feelings can take a strong form and they can result in serious problems that are difficult to resolve. Jealousy, resentment and envy are never pleasant feelings and they can greatly diminish the quality of your relationship. These feelings do not just arise; they are ingrained into us from long-term experiences with people whose behaviour towards us has been less than complimentary. If you are constantly feeling angry at your partner or you are constantly feeling sad or disappointed, it may be because your early relationships were characterized by situations where another person’s behaviour towards you was markedly different from your own. It is in these early relationships where these early feelings have the strongest foundation.
So, love may well be described as a fulfilling, deep emotional emotion. It occurs when two people come together to experience love and affection for each other. Love may often occur when one of the people gives the other sexual pleasure or when one of the people is emotionally supported and encouraged to feel affection for another person. It is important for love to exist between two people who are not exclusive of each other and it is equally important that this sharing should not just happen accidentally. Love needs to be cultivated and nurtured within a relationship in order to grow and deepen.
The most effective way of developing love and affection is by opening yourself up to another person. You need to have boundaries so that you can protect yourself and others. But you should not become so protective that you cannot let the love and affection flow naturally. Your partner needs to feel supported and needed at the same time so that they do not become irritated when their feelings of affection for you are pushed aside. If you can cultivate love and affection in your relationship then you will experience deep emotional satisfaction.