The Relationship Bonding Skill of Learning How to Love
The word love is used so often that it has become synonymous with all human relationships. It is used in everyday language like ‘to love someone’, ‘to be loved’, and ‘to feel love’. To be loved is the feeling that one gets when they are loved. Love encompasses a vast range of positive and negative emotional and spiritual states, from the deepest spiritual virtue or religious belief, to the easiest personal pleasure, to the strongest emotional bond. It is an emotion that we are all familiar with and responds readily to the right type of stimulus.
When love is expressed most effectively, it expresses intense feelings of caring, security, competence, and competence for another person, usually in the context of some kind of romantic relationship or attachment. Love between two people can be erotic, platonic, or sexual. Erotic love often involves fantasies of intimacy or sometimes involves a desire to become intimate physically. platonic love is not based on intimacy or a desire to experience physical intimacy with another person.
Some people think that loving feelings arise automatically and without being expressed as such. The most powerful way to express love is through your emotions. Expressing love in your life requires that you give and take from yourself, be open, generous, nurturing, and spontaneous. This is especially important in a relationship, but also for other aspects of your life such as: family, friends, work, school, or volunteering. Being a good giver and taker makes us a unique person and will enhance all our relationships whether they are romantic or non-romantic. In order to be able to cultivate others to be good lovers and good partners we must first be good at giving.
Loving is a lifelong experience for both people involved. Being in a healthy relationship allows us to express our unique loving-givers’ genuine feelings in a safe environment. In a healthy relationship each partner is free to raise their true level of loving-giver and receive genuine support from the other. In a healthy relationship sharing positive emotions between two people fosters feelings of love, trust, and security which are essential ingredients for romance and a fulfilling, loving life.
When learning how to love, one important thing to remember is that in order for a relationship to be healthy, it should have no problem expressing positive feelings between couples. If any negative feelings are felt towards your partner, such as fear, anger, jealousy, sadness, or lack of appreciation, they must be dealt with and overcome before any positive feelings can emerge. So when learning how to love positively, start with accepting and loving your partner even when they make mistakes or do things that you don’t like! You want to be able to express your partner’s feelings because they are very valuable, not only to you, but to each other and everyone who is a part of the relationship.
Learning how to love positively includes learning to listen attentively, compassionately, truthfully, and graciously. After any difficulties or challenging times in the relationship, do not shut them out by ignoring them; instead be open to listening with sensitivity and listening to their concerns. After working through any issues in the relationship, take some time out for just the two of you, doing something you both enjoy, such as going out for a walk or cooking a good meal, in order to enjoy the shared experience of being in a satisfying relationship.