Three Styles of Relationship Love

Love is the greatest single human motivator. Yet one of the least understood aspects of love is its impact on children. Love encompasses a wide range of positive and strong emotions, from the highest personal virtue or vice, to the easiest personal joy, to the most profound interpersonal bond. It is the power to love that is most appealing to children. The more I study love and relationships with children, the more I am convinced that learning about love is crucial for our schools and our nation.


Love is an emotion that is rooted in both neurology and neurophysiology. Neuroscientists believe that love encompasses both visual and auditory experiences as well as the limbic system. Love produces two very different kinds of responses: joy for bonding with others and displeasure for rejection or hurt. It seems that there are two different kinds of love.

One kind of love is affection. This is the most powerful form of love, and it involves physical touching or affectionate touches of another person, whether it is verbal or nonverbal. Affection is a powerful motivator of love, as it allows us to connect with someone deeply without physical contact. Touching another person transports us to a place of love, and we feel moved to share and give support. In fact, tender loving care is one of the strongest motivators of intimacy in relationships.

However, affection can be conditional. It can only be expressed if love is reciprocated in kind. To love someone unconditionally means to show that you are that other person’s best friend. Without this, our actions in choosing to be with another person are not motivated by love. Thus, a person with whom we are romantically involved may treat us badly or behave abusively. We need to demonstrate affection in these cases by being unkind or by showing the proper behavior for which we are thanked in return.

Another form of love is attraction. In attraction, there is something specific that attracts one person to another. In this case, the attraction is not so much an emotion as it is a mental construct. Attraction is a way of organizing the mind in order to create a particular result. So, unlike affection, attraction is actually directed at a particular person rather than at people as a whole.

All three styles of love are important for healthy and mutually satisfying relationships. However, they are also very different from one another. While attraction relies on mental associations, love is more emotional and relies on real connections and sharing. Lastly, attraction only works in a relationship where the relationship’s goal is compatibility. Love, on the other hand, can work in any relationship since it is based on similarities.

The Importance of Getting Enough Sleep


The Importance of Getting Enough Sleep

Sleep is a natural, recurring state of body and brain, characterized by decreased sleep quality, reduced awareness, decreased emotional response, decreased muscle activity and motor skill development during slow eye movement sleep (REM), and increased interactions with the environment during light sleep (von REM). Most people do not require sleep to survive; most live healthy and fulfilling lives through out the night. There are many different types of sleep disorders, including transient insomnia, intermittent insomnia, sleep apnea, restless legs syndrome, and nonrestorative sleep.

The lack of sleep can have serious consequences on the brain and body. According to the American Academy of Sleep Medicine, “There is an increasing amount of evidence that suggests that inadequate sleep can be detrimental to your mental and physical health.” Lack of sleep has been linked to higher stress levels, poor judgment and impulse control, poorer memory function, difficulty concentrating, increased blood pressure and heart rate, depression, and fatigue. Many of these same conditions can arise from other medical conditions as well, so if you’re suffering from one or more of these symptoms, it’s a good idea to talk to your doctor about sleep medications and alternative sleep remedies such as acupressure, biofeedback, and massage therapy.

In general, the human sleep cycle lasts for about four stages: light, sleep, stages two and three, deep sleep, and non-stage sleep. Each stage occurs for a specific length of time during which the brain processes stimuli in much the same way it does during the light cycle. As the brain enters into the sleep stages, it reorganizes its connections and begins the process of falling asleep.

The four stages of sleep cycle are generally categorized into four groups: light, restful, deep, and non-restful. During each of these four stages, the body goes into a specialized state called sleep. When we are in deep sleep, our brains and nerves are in a highly efficient state, while in the light and restful stages respectively. When we wake up, we generally move back to the light cycle but some people may spend several hours in the deep stages before falling back into the non-restful state.

Sleep is important because it helps us do things that are necessary for health and growth. When we are sleeping, the brain receives information from the sensory nerves about the events of the day and begins to prepare itself for the next day. During sleep cycles, the pineal gland releases melatonin, a hormone that regulates our sleeping and wake cycles. This is why we tend to feel tired after going to bed or feeling sluggish during the morning. In order to determine whether our bodies are in a sleep cycle or not, we need to go to a doctor for a sleep test.

Although the exact reasons for getting less sleep on a regular basis are unknown, many experts believe that chronic sleep deprivation is the main cause behind a number of diseases such as cancer, diabetes, heart disease, Alzheimer’s, arthritis, obesity, depression, and hypertension. It is important to stay active and exercise regularly if you want to live a healthy lifestyle and avoid getting less sleep than you should. Even though you might think that going to work feeling tired and listless is normal, it could be a sign that you are suffering from sleep loss or other sleep disorders.